A Road to Self-Discovery
One of the most intriguing phenomena that surround healing of a husband is the process of discovery during the time of grief. He sat and went through all the letters, photographs, and personal belongings his wife had left for him to read. He started thinking about his life. He would wonder how much of his life he had spent with his wife and what kind of person he was before he ever got married.
He learned to acknowledge how well his wife had been a part of him but how, in return, he had lost aspects of himself. This marriage and all the plans for the future had consumed him, but in that moment, with the weight of loss, he began to ask grave questions about what really mattered to him, if outside of his marriage lay greater aspirations still unrealized, and how he could honor his wife’s memory by getting his personal aspirations back.
That’s exactly what the journey turned out to be, one of rediscovery, mourning for his wife-but equally important, rediscovery of life. He renewed old hobbies he once left behind, revamped ties with lost friends, and dived even deeper into personal growth. The realization that life could actually be beautiful, full of meaning, after the loss was very powerful. It was not just a matter of getting over the hurt of losing his wife; he had to recover and find himself again, bearing in his heart the memory of his dearly loved wife.
