The Healing Power of Memory
With time, he also learned the healing power of memory. He realized that even though the pain of loss is never fully erased by time, it does allow memories to mellow and take on new meanings. His wife’s memories, once full of sorrow, began to become peaceful and comforting. He stopped dwelling on the pain of her being absent and started dwelling on moments of happiness they had shared in their lifetime.
He kept her memory alive in small ways, meaningful ways. He started going to the places they loved to visit, listening to the music they loved, and carrying out the traditions that they had started together. The box he kept had her personal belongings, including her letters and photos, things that reminded him of her, placing her spirit close to his own. These memories acted as touchstones to remind him of the love that the two shared.
Time has it that he realizes that memory does not just look back into the past but instead carries lessons, love, and experiences into who he became. His wife’s memory became part of who he is, affecting his choices, and changing the person he is today. He then discovered the deep peace during which he accepted it through the remembrance process.
